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Working with Parts

Resolving conflicts

Parts are pieces of the personality that provide inner conflicts. An internal conflict exists when a person has two motivation streams (pieces) and wants to execute incompatible behaviours in response to the same stimulus.
A part of you wants to do one thing, and a part of you wants to do the other thing. We call them the Incongruent Parts. Examples of parts that provide inner conflicts are: silence and talking, hate and love, run away and approach.

Parts may occur at all logical levels , but we mostly discover them on the level of Behaviour.
Examples are: “On the one hand I what to this do but on the other hand I want to do that” or “I do not really want to do x but it seems every time it happen by itself.”

In another way, you could say: someone wants something but there is something in that person holding him back i.e. fear, shame, insecurity, doubt, etc. To make working with parts easier and solving inner conflicts we make a number of assumptions about parts.

Important assumptions

  • Two parts will always have the same highest intention. Inner conflicts manifest themselves at the level of behaviour. Within NLP we assume that behind every behaviour is a positive intention. By chunking up the intention of both parts you will discover that both parts have the same ultimate intention.
  • The incongruity lies in the difference between intention and function (behaviour). Although both parts have the same ultimate intention, we are confronted with the level of behaviour with different behaviours.
    Struggle and surrender, leave and stay, continue and stop.
  • Both parts were once part of a larger entity In our personal development there was a time when we functioned without parts, without shame, doubt, etc. Parts are the result of significant emotional events (SEE). In the process of personal development, people are looking for the feeling and to be fully themselves.

What are parts?

  1. Parts are pieces of the subconscious with an intention (goal) and a function (behaviour).
  2. Parts are functionally separated from the rest of the nervous system (non-integrated).
  3. Sometimes smaller parts act as personalities. They are probably the significant others (modeled, imprinted).
  4. Parts can have their own values and belief systems.
  5. Parts are responsible for maintenance of the system. They have a lot of influence on the internal representation (thought patterns).
  6. Parts are created from Significant Emotional Events (SEE).
  7. Parts protect non-integrated behaviour (and the continuation of this).
  8. Parts are a source of incongruence in the individual.
  9. Parts in themselves are incongruent.
  10. The incongruity lies in the difference between the intention (goal) and function (behaviour).
  11. A part usually has an opposite (alter ego, flipside, overleaf). The nervous system must maintain his balance .
  12. These two parts will have the same highest intention (purpose).
  13. These two parts were once part of a larger whole.
  14. Reunification of the two parts is possible.

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